From the pictures, it looks like the guy went out and became the owner of the in-laws multi-million dollar business, the begum modern and the children foreign national, but what about the pictures, they tell a story of a bit of misery.

The silent groans of boys coming home to become sons-in-law

The love of marrying unmarried girls from Pakistan is still there or has died out among parents, but today's topic is not the woes of girls who come to marry abroad, but the silent moans of boys who come home as son-in-laws to Europe. They don't tell anyone about their shame and embarrassment.

I have mentioned in my previous columns that I am currently part of a scientific research project regarding the Pakistani community in Norway , which aims to examine the views of first- and second-generation Pakistani men who came to Norway that they are women, gender-based. What is your opinion regarding violence, division of responsibilities on the basis of gender and outdated thinking of masculinity?

During this research,

I met some men from the community who came to Norway as house grooms and what happened to them each house groom has its own story.

In the interviews, the stories told by the Pakistani house-in-laws of Europe were not few. Then, in a foreign in-law, I saw with my own eyes the fate of a well-educated house-in-law and thought that it is better that America, Europe, Canada and Australia are a shortcut. The boys who are looking for something to listen to.

It is mentioned that the son-in-law of this house has been working in different hotels for the past several years, the cousin was married, but apparently the Pakistani-origin Norwegian girl's will is not involved in this marriage because there is a clear difference in the personality and education of the two.

While not exactly equal in their treatment of each other, it seemed like a small relationship working in the garage and garage. In this household, the son-in-law has been taught to drive but does not speak Norwegian fluently or has not had the opportunity to learn.

The son-in-law has children in this house, but the children speak Norwegian and are close to the mother, while the children's reluctance was seen with the Urdu-speaking father.

It was clear that this house-son-in-law was not included in any conversation at home, visited this house many times and every time saw this house-son-in-law cooking and setting the table after returning from work.

One gentleman said that despite spending many years as a son-in-law, he did not have complete documents for permanent residence in Norway because Begum always used some pretext to avoid it.

When an educated Pakistani immigrant told that he came home from Pakistan as a son-in-law, his passport was with his father-in-law for many years. And the oral hearing of a Pakistani man.

These were educated sons-in-law,

but the father-in-law's brother had taken the contract of cleaning a building, so they were sweeping and cleaning toilets in a building for two years in Sweden.

From the pictures, it looks like the guy went out and became the owner of the in-laws multi-million dollar business, the begum modern and the children foreign national, but what about the pictures, they tell a story of a bit of misery.

A gentleman who has become a Norwegian citizen, but the funny stoppage of his son-in-law, according to him, is not leaving him behind.

According to him, the family arranged the marriage with his cousin so that the boy would settle outside and earn, but for his Begum it was a forced marriage.

Both of them have been together for 15 years, but according to him, they have been getting threats from Begum to put the police in the blocker from time to time.

Here we also met a PhD scholar who came to Scandinavia for higher education, married a German woman of Pakistani origin and became a son-in-law and started his in-laws' catering business in Europe.

His colleagues say that all the doctor's bills were canceled in the beginning, so he went to Pakistan only once in these 20 years after the death of his father.

No matter how forced the sons-in-law are in a Pakistani household, they are men, who have been taught specific traditions of masculinity by the Pakistani society, so why do these men tolerate someone's coercion?

So the story is simple,

these boys do not come to earn money to settle the in-laws' house after leaving Pakistan so that they can send money to the family in Pakistan and this compulsion is well understood by the foreign in-laws.

The other side of the story of house-son-in-laws starts when they kill their time by staying in the in-laws abroad, but as soon as they get citizenship, then the same house-son-in-law dies by breathing in the girl's nose. This is also a researched social issue.

Online dating platforms have a separate shop for international relationships where 25 to 30 year old engineer, doctor, IT, MBA, diploma holder, minimum graduate and skilled relationship is most in demand.

But the lovers of short-cut Europe may not know that those who have a heart attack from Turkey, but those who are interested in going to Europe as a son-in-law, then they are attacked by their in-laws every day for several years.